6 Ways to Get Through to Your Employees

Posted on 8/6/15 10:04 AM by Patti Komara

When I first started in business, I used to avoid difficult conversations with staff members. I was a people-pleaser. I wanted everyone to be happy and to like me. The reality is, if you’re the leader and you’re not addressing problems within your staff, the person you’re avoiding may be happy, but the others are not. Your lack of leadership is holding everyone back. I realized my staff needed to respect me. They didn’t have to like me. I hoped they did, but I realized I couldn’t control that

The conversation you need to have with them actually strengthens the relationship. Think about the difficult conversation you need to have right now, the one you’ve probably been putting off, and look at the following steps:vintage_megaphone_cropped


1. Plan to meet privately ASAP. Whenever you come across a significant problem, you want to address it at the first possible opportunity. Maybe it’s already been going on too long right now. You can’t change that, but you can keep from letting more time go to waste.

2. Assume good motives. Go in with a positive attitude that assumes that the intentions are good but the system must not be working. Give him or her the benefit of the doubt.

3. Offer specific observations. It’s hard for people to change in response to general comments. Statements such as, “Your performance hasn’t been very good lately,” or “You don’t get along with others,” aren’t as helpful as if you said, “You haven’t put the equipment back in the right place the last week and you yelled at Emily last night in front of parents.” Once you’ve described the poor behavior specifically and explained its negative impact, this will help them know what needs to change and why.

4. Hear them out. Ask for their side of the story. There may be additional factors in play: Maybe the employee has been late for work because her car was totalled. Maybe he isn’t performing well because a loved one has cancer, or he has been sick himself—you really never know. From time to time, you can solve a work issue by helping someone get through a personal problem. That’s a powerful tool.

5. Agree on a course of action. If you don’t define a solution and agree to what needs to happen in the future, then both you and the other person will be frustrated. They can’t hit a target they haven’t identified.

6. Validate the person and commit to help. If at all possible, you want to encourage your staffer to change and grow through a particular situation and let them know they have a future with your company once these changes are made.

Assure them they have intrinsic value and are more valuable than the work they perform. If the employee has been successful in the past, mention that. If the two of you have had a good relationship in the past, recall that. If you believe the person can grow and change, let them know!



Patti_in_red_striped_jacket_10-09_copySince opening her first acrobatic studio in 1969, Patti’s All-American Gymnastics has grown to be one of the premier gym schools offering more than just gymnastics. She has written programs and workshops that are sold across the USA and in over 40 countries worldwide. Patti co-authored the original USA Gymnastics preschool KAT certification program. She also has worked for USA Gymnastics Task Force and is a member of their Business Advisory Team. Patti is a two-time winner of the USA Gymnastics "Business Leader of the Year Award” in 2003 and 2014. In her town, Patti wants to impact as many young people as possible to introduce them to gymnastics, dance, and swim and to make them confident movers. Read more from Patti here.